Shop Therapy

Some people say that "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone". I on the other hand do not hop to the next boy, I simply get out my credit card. There is something about spending money on pretty things that makes you feel fabulous and look like a million bucks. Shop therapy to me is the key to getting over a ended relationship.

In November, when Mr. Wrong and I broke up, I bought myself a stylish Michael Kors purse that was the equivalent to a car payment. I didn't feel bad at all when I dropped the Nordstrom credit card down on the counter. I remember my mom just looking at me funny since I made this major purchase on a whim. But I looked at her and said I deserve to buy something nice for myself. To which she agreed, and said I could never tell my Dad how much I spent on a  purchase based on a broken heart. 

Whether its shoes, clothes, or jewelry lots of us girls cope with our sadness by buying something to make us feel value. That special something to make us smile whether it be for a week or a lifetime. When I toted my new purse to dinner, several of my girlfriends shared with me the purchases they had made post break up. Some purchased shoes, some spent too much on jeans, and others bought new panties and bras. Why is it that shopping can feel a void in our heart? Is it that we feel our purchase is a time piece which encapsulates the time we invested in our previous relationship?

In my life I feel that the more substantial a relationship is to you, the more substantial of a shopping spree one is entitled to. D and I only dated for two and a half months, so when buying my break up gift for myself, I didn't hit up the purse, jewelery or shoe department. Instead I thought of something a little more thoughtful and a little more in the budget.

I have been admiring my friend Jess's gold cross necklace for months now. I have texted her several times in the past few months asking her where she got it, because it seriously looks cute with everything she wears (Of course if you know Jess you would know that she looks cute in everything she puts on. She could wear a stained up t-shirt or a speedo and make it fashionable). My intention wasn't to purchase this new accessory to be stylish; the cross necklace means a lot more to me. For me its a sign of hope, and knowing that if I God has a plan for me. 

If I have learned anything from D, it is good guys do exist. D showed me that I deserve more then I have aimed for in the past; and God showed me that he has created this perfect man for me that I am soon to meet. 

When I finally do meet Mr. Right he better take notice of my sassy cognac Michael Kors purse and my dainty necklace, because each of them represents a relationship that didn't work out to get me to him. Let's keep our fingers crossed that there isn't the addition of new Manolos, David Yurman, or Tory Burch...Lol!! 

My bank account would really appreciate it if I could hurry up and meet this perfect man...these shop therapy sessions every few months are getting pricey!