Spring is in the air, the flowers are blooming, flip flops and dresses are the attire, and your mailbox is bursting with those large white envelopes. You know the ones I'm talking about, the wide white margins, with the fancy raised writing. It's wedding season people.
On Monday I was hanging out with a group of my girlfriends and we started talking about our upcoming weekends. For most they were filled with showers, bachelorette parties, and a Saturday evening wedding. Luckily for once, this season of chaos does not apply to me.
I have been in my fair share of weddings-
Flower girl for Uncle D
Junior Bridesmaid for Aunt T
Bridesmaid for my cousin Melissa
Bridesmaid for my Aunt J
Bridesmaid for my sorority sister Lisa
Bridesmaid for my friend Shelby
Bridesmaid at my brother's wedding
Bridesmaid for my friend Mags
Bridesmaid for my friend Les
House Party aka program girl for my friend Dana
Reader at my friend LaLa's wedding
So needless to say I've put in my time throwing showers, buying bridesmaid dresses, posing for photos, and attempting to catch the bouquet (which has happened on several occasions...I'm thinking that rule that you're the next to get married is FALSE). It is always a great honor to be asked to be a part of someone's special day, and I am truly glad that I have been in so many weddings. However every time I "suit up" for another wedding, I start to think about what mine will be like. What will my dress look like? How much money will I spend on flowers? And more importantly what friends will I ask to be a part of my special day? I totally like the idea of making all the for mentioned people stand up beside me on my special day, but that would be a parade of people down the aisle! I guess we will just have to wait (and wait and wait) to see what my special day will look like.
In the conversation with the girls on Monday night we talked about how sometimes relationships change when friends get married, or even when they are dating seriously. I think it would be a lie to say that things will always be the same with you and your friend after they find "the one". Naturally things are going to have to change, and that is ok! Falling in love and starting a family is all part of the life cycle; for most of us its our goal in life, to have a family of our own. It does take some adjustment and understanding on both parties (the married and single) that though your Saturday nights might not always be the same, that you can still make time for each other.
Roles in friendships change, and that is what makes life so interesting. Someone will always be in a relationship, and someone will always be single (especially these days with the ever climbing divorce rate). I think its important for each friend to put themselves in each others shoes and be understanding of the others situation. I wouldn't think it was cool to invite my friends with babies to the bar, just as I would hope that they wouldn't invite me to go to Chucke Cheese!
I believe its important in girl friendships to make new tradition. Like wine night in, or Saturday shopping dates. Now matter what your relationship status is, sometimes you just need time with the girls.
I wonder what dress I will wear the next time I walk down the aisle....
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