Merry Christmas Dear Reader! May your day be filled with lots of love, laughter, and optimism!
XOXO,
Savvy
Saturday, December 24, 2011
Friday, December 23, 2011
How Savvy Survives the Holidays!
This time of the year really heightens emotions to those single and coupled alike. But I wanted to share how this singleton maintains a positive, cheery outlook when she is still standing alone under the mistletoe.
1) During the whirlwind of the season, I make a major effort to look my personal best. When you look good, you feel good! As Barney from "How I Met Your Mother" would say- SUIT up! Don't fall into the sloppy sweat pants trap, you know the frump clothes that even you don't like seeing in the mirror. Go for those tight Paige skinny jeans and that new set of Coach earrings you splurged for. Plus you never know who you might meet while standing in the mile long Starbucks line, or while stocking up at the liquor store.
2) Have a bottle of wine near you at all times. Not necessarily for you to drink, but I'm a firm believer that you shouldn't go to a holiday party empty handed. A bottle of wine (especially one you enjoy) is a great hostess gift. Plus if times get rough, you can always uncork that bad boy. I plan on taking several bottles of wine to a particular family Christmas.
3) Don't be a Grinch or Scrooge during the holidays; we go through a spectrum of emotions during the holidays...sometimes hourly. It's easy to get caught up in the Grinch/Scrooge spirit, but the key is to choose a more positive outlook! Chances are your life looks pretty rocking compared to other people in the world. When you feel these negative feelings coming on, turn to serving others. There are so many worthy causes in the city that need an extra hand or handout. Or better yet, brighten someone's day in your world! This is a instant turn to the feel good track.
3) Take some personal time for YOU. Spend some quite time with yourself and put things in perspective. I chose to have my holiday "me" time during a relaxing mani/pedi.
4) Be INCLUSIVE, not exclusive. This is one that has been hard for me this year. But no one likes to be alone at Christmas. This is the time of year that your attitude should be "the more the merrier"! Yes, your Cousin's girlfriend isn't your favorite person, but you should embrace her with open arms (oh and a full glass of wine).
5) When family members ask you the inevitable question- "Are you dating anyone?" have a planned out response. This is probably the holiday moment I loathe the most, it instantly can put me on the defense... Especially if those already annoying family members are the ones asking. I decided that I am going to keep my response light this year. Just a simple response of "I'm not dating anyone seriously right now".
Even as I type this I can hear my voice responding with numerous sarcastic responses such as- "no I'm not, how's your failing marriage going?" or "even if I was, I wouldn't be sharing that information with you!" But I digress... Just another chance to maintain a positive attitude and drink another glass of wine.
Overall you MUST stay in the positive. I always tell my friends "If you constantly compare your life to others, you will drive yourself crazy". Be aware of your feelings and choose a go-with-the-flow attitude. Remember the reason for the season- its not about the gifts, the food, comparing photo Christmas cards, or exclusivity; it's about the birth of our Savior. It's about celebrating Christ and all the gifts he has already given you!
Embrace your loved ones, and embrace yourself!
Merry Christmas to YOU!
1) During the whirlwind of the season, I make a major effort to look my personal best. When you look good, you feel good! As Barney from "How I Met Your Mother" would say- SUIT up! Don't fall into the sloppy sweat pants trap, you know the frump clothes that even you don't like seeing in the mirror. Go for those tight Paige skinny jeans and that new set of Coach earrings you splurged for. Plus you never know who you might meet while standing in the mile long Starbucks line, or while stocking up at the liquor store.
2) Have a bottle of wine near you at all times. Not necessarily for you to drink, but I'm a firm believer that you shouldn't go to a holiday party empty handed. A bottle of wine (especially one you enjoy) is a great hostess gift. Plus if times get rough, you can always uncork that bad boy. I plan on taking several bottles of wine to a particular family Christmas.
3) Don't be a Grinch or Scrooge during the holidays; we go through a spectrum of emotions during the holidays...sometimes hourly. It's easy to get caught up in the Grinch/Scrooge spirit, but the key is to choose a more positive outlook! Chances are your life looks pretty rocking compared to other people in the world. When you feel these negative feelings coming on, turn to serving others. There are so many worthy causes in the city that need an extra hand or handout. Or better yet, brighten someone's day in your world! This is a instant turn to the feel good track.
3) Take some personal time for YOU. Spend some quite time with yourself and put things in perspective. I chose to have my holiday "me" time during a relaxing mani/pedi.
4) Be INCLUSIVE, not exclusive. This is one that has been hard for me this year. But no one likes to be alone at Christmas. This is the time of year that your attitude should be "the more the merrier"! Yes, your Cousin's girlfriend isn't your favorite person, but you should embrace her with open arms (oh and a full glass of wine).
5) When family members ask you the inevitable question- "Are you dating anyone?" have a planned out response. This is probably the holiday moment I loathe the most, it instantly can put me on the defense... Especially if those already annoying family members are the ones asking. I decided that I am going to keep my response light this year. Just a simple response of "I'm not dating anyone seriously right now".
Even as I type this I can hear my voice responding with numerous sarcastic responses such as- "no I'm not, how's your failing marriage going?" or "even if I was, I wouldn't be sharing that information with you!" But I digress... Just another chance to maintain a positive attitude and drink another glass of wine.
Overall you MUST stay in the positive. I always tell my friends "If you constantly compare your life to others, you will drive yourself crazy". Be aware of your feelings and choose a go-with-the-flow attitude. Remember the reason for the season- its not about the gifts, the food, comparing photo Christmas cards, or exclusivity; it's about the birth of our Savior. It's about celebrating Christ and all the gifts he has already given you!
Embrace your loved ones, and embrace yourself!
Merry Christmas to YOU!
Monday, December 5, 2011
Qualifying The Buyer
In this step of the game, our matchmaker wants you to really think about what exactly you are looking for in your mate. She gives us the exercise of mapping out five must haves in the areas of spirituality, physical qualities, emotional giving, intellect, and his personal finances. You are to reflect back on your previous list of winners and losers, and flip the negatives to positives. Here are my top five characteristics for each category.
| Spiritual | Physical | Emotional | Intellectual | Financial |
| Christian | Taller then 5’8 | Communicates feelings | College educated | No debt |
| Belongs to a church | Caucasian | Warm and loving | Knows current events | Has money in savings |
| Has a relationship with Christ | Not petite in size | Fun to be around, doesn’t take himself too seriously | Witty and sarcastic | Spends money, but doesn’t overspend |
| Spiritual leader | Has hair | Wants a family | Knowledge about sports | Donates to charity |
| Raised attending church with his family. | Dresses nicely | Ready for a committed relationship that will lead toward marriage | Likes to travel | Has a job and makes more than me |
Then from here, you are supposed to create your Top Ten Must Haves. These are the top 10 qualities my potential boy must have. This list is very fluid and can change as you grow in yourself. The top five traits on your Ten Must Haves list are your non-negotiables; these are the things that if the guy you are dating doesn't match the criteria, you must cut loose and set free in the dating pond.
Ten Must Haves:
1. Warm and loving
2. Communicates feelings
3.Taller than 5’8
4. Christian
5. Wants a family
6. College Educated
7. No debt
8. Fun to be around, doesn’t take himself too seriously
9. Has a job and makes more than me
10. Ready for a committed relationship that will lead toward marriage
It was pretty challenging coming up with these final ten traits. It was also kinda scary once I looked at them all typed out. By listing some of these traits, am I cutting down my possible pool of men? Or am I just cutting to the chase and not wasting my time with guys who don't have everything I am looking for? I know that I could never date someone who wasn't taller then me; not because I am a size-st, but because I wouldn't feel confident in my own skin. I do believe its important for someone to have the same value system, and be able to express themselves and how they feel about me. I don't need someone who is all mushy gushy, but I definitely want someone who is loving and kind to others. My ultimate goal in life is to have a family of my own, so I definitely want to date someone who shares the desire for marriage and children. The best gift the Lord could have given me is my cherished mom, dad, and brother. I want to expand that love, and give my family the same care and upbringing that was bestowed on me.
So there we have it- Savvy's Must Haves in a man! Now dear reader, I want you to save them to memory... and for goodness sakes bring me someone who meets that criteria!!!! According to the Millionaire Matchmaker, I need to be creating a pool of eligible men from my friends/family/ and acquaintances. THAT IS YOU! Get going cherished reader, find me a match!
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