For those of you that follow along with this Singleton's life, you would know that I haven't really been actively dating the past few months. First it started off as a 30 day "me" time, and then it turned into a 90 day "me" session. I think during this time I grew alot, blah blah blah, but now I am ready to start getting all dolled up and playin' the field.
A few weeks ago, after a happy hour with some co-workers, I realized I was the only single person at the table. It inspired me then and there to get active online AGAIN. Plus, in reading Patty's book, I knew I needed to expand my area of potential suitors further than just chance run ins. So with some encouragement from some friends (who also met their main squeeze online) I had my friend take some new pictures of me and signed up for Match.
In the past I had been kinda scared of Match for the fact that there isn't much structure and its very easy to openly contact someone. I had always done Eharmony because it had some preset boundaries, and randoms couldn't search you- instead they sent your matches to you. I found out these past few weeks that I had it all wrong. It's kinda fun to go "shopping" online for men. When I search men on Match in the ages 29-30 in my same area code there are 600 HOT matches that pull up. And yes, I'm no dummy, I know many of those are not real matches or compatible suitors for me, but it was encouraging to know that so many men were living within walking distance!
My profile has been active for over three weeks right now, and I'm currently talking to several guys who I'm interested in. I was inspired to blog today and give you this update because I had a date. Let me rephrase that, I was suppose to have a date, but it got postponed. Here is the 411:
We shall name this new potential suitor "Justice" because he is a lawyer, and its much easier to name someone after their occupation. So Justice and I have been emailing for about three weeks (the Christmas break really slowed things down). In his emails he is really witty and sarcastic, which I love. Last week Justice asked me on a date, set a time and a Place (a place near my apartments that I LOVE). We emailed all week about our date, and I was getting excited. All day today I've been daydreaming about my outfit and coordinating enough time to get home from work, shower, and meet him up. I was kinda excited today when he texted me this morning and said he was looking forward to tonight. I took that as a good sign. Then several hours later, around 2:00 pm, he called me. I couldn't answer because I had a group of co-workers in my office. He left a message saying that he wouldn't be able to make it tonight, because he had to work, and that he would make it up to me later if I gave him a second chance. It was the first time in awhile that I was disappointed about a date being cancelled. I realized right then and there that I was craving some time out with a boy, and that I was actually interested in this guy. I texted him back, figuring it made me seem cooler than calling, and told him to give me a call and we would find another time.
This is the part I love and hate about dating. I love the chase in the beginning, but now I feel like things are kinda thrown off. I don't think this guy would tell me he's excited about seeing me one minute and then flake out the next unless something really came up. I mean its not like he met me to decide he didn't want to see me. So now Justice has increased my desire for him to call and take me out.Why does that happen?
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